Turning your Shame into Anger
Birungi had reported that Lutalo would commonly over-react each time employees complained to the CEO about his bad habits. “Eventually, we all decided to resort to silence, rather than disturbing the peace in our department”, she confessed.
Some people have the art of cunningly retreating into ‘anger’ when caught red-handed with their ‘fingers in the forbidden sugar bin’. Such people maintain a self-conviction that their roars and other antagonistic behaviours will threaten supervisees and others to silence. They manipulatively work towards breeding fear in their victims, using it as a weapon that will hopefully force the victim to back-off.
But although such a gimmick may seemingly work outwardly, does it denote that victims have forgotten the offence? Remember, silencing the mouth does not mean that one’s heart is silent. People may back-off physically but that does not necessarily indicate that their minds are at ease. They may keep quiet and refrain from complaining; while the hurt and the pain is boiling inside them. These feelings may engender resentment, resulting in destruction of relationships.