Repeating the Offence Intentionally
“You know what?” Birungi said, as she peered over the rim of the enamel tea cup; “Lutalo seemed to be hurting me on purpose…, it was obvious to all my colleagues that he was getting a kick out of frustrating me repeatedly”, she added. “And, just as I would be recovering from his recent maltreatments, the man would antagonise me afresh”, she complained. She went on to explain how Lutalo had threatened to ‘deal’ with anyone who would dare blow the whistle! “Joy, I finally got used to his manners; but to say the truth, I had no room to love such a sadist”, she admits.
Repeated mistakes can kill something in people. That explains why some victims develop numbness, erosion of feelings and demotivation. Such feelings are a survival mechanism that guards people against being hurt again in future.
Therefore, learn the things that turn off people, and refrain from doing or repeating them. Remember, you are trying to win back the person you offended. Undoubtedly, repeated mistakes are the last thing you need, if your relationship is to improve.