BG.T02-SA — Baseline Self-Assessment: My Mental Readiness for Marriage
BG.T02-SA — Baseline Self-Assessment: My Mental Readiness for Marriage
Purpose
This tool helps me assess my current level of mental readiness before beginning Mental Guidelines for Choosing and Becoming Marriage Material. It establishes a baseline against which I can later evaluate my growth as I complete the Guide. The assessment focuses on intellectual maturity, growth mindset, decision-making, openness to learning, handling family and cultural influences and other factors that shape mental preparedness for marriage. The Guide emphasises that the quality of a relationship is often influenced by the way individuals think, reason, learn, evaluate situations and make decisions.
Instructions
I will rate myself honestly based on my current attitudes, beliefs and practices.
| Statement | Score (1–5) |
|---|---|
| I think carefully before making important decisions. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I consider different perspectives before reaching conclusions. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I seek facts and evidence before forming opinions. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I am willing to learn when I discover that I do not understand something. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I receive correction without becoming unnecessarily defensive. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I learn from my mistakes and apply lessons for improvement. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I examine the influence of family and culture before adopting a belief or practice. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
| I seek wise counsel when making important decisions. | 1 2 3 4 5 |
Total Score: ______ / 40
Part A: Intellectual Maturity
1. How would you rate your current level of intellectual maturity?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
2. How confident are you in your ability to evaluate situations carefully before making decisions?
☐ Very Confident
☐ Confident
☐ Moderately Confident
☐ Slightly Confident
☐ Not Confident
Why?
3. Which aspect of intellectual maturity currently requires the greatest attention?
Part B: Growth Mindset
4. How willing are you to learn, grow and improve when necessary?
☐ Very Willing
☐ Willing
☐ Somewhat Willing
☐ Reluctant
☐ Very Reluctant
Why?
5. How do you normally respond when someone points out a weakness, mistake or area requiring improvement?
6. Which aspect of personal growth currently requires the greatest attention?
Part C: Learning and Development
7. How would you rate your willingness to seek knowledge when faced with something you do not understand?
☐ Very High
☐ High
☐ Moderate
☐ Low
☐ Very Low
Why?
8. How willing are you to seek guidance when you lack clarity?
☐ Very Willing
☐ Willing
☐ Somewhat Willing
☐ Reluctant
☐ Very Reluctant
Why?
9. Which learning habit requires the greatest improvement?
Part D: Decision-Making and Judgement
10. How would you rate the quality of your decision-making?
☐ Very Strong
☐ Strong
☐ Moderate
☐ Weak
☐ Very Weak
Why?
11. When making important decisions, which factor influences you most?
☐ Facts and Evidence
☐ Prayer and Spiritual Conviction
☐ Advice from Others
☐ Personal Feelings
☐ Family Expectations
☐ Cultural Expectations
☐ Other:
12. Which aspect of your decision-making currently requires the greatest attention?
Part E: Family Influences
13. How strongly do family expectations influence your thinking and decisions?
☐ Very Strongly
☐ Strongly
☐ Moderately
☐ Slightly
☐ Not at All
Why?
14. What positive influences have you received from your family regarding marriage and relationships?
15. What family patterns, if any, concern you most as you think about marriage?
Part F: Cultural Influences
16. How strongly do cultural expectations influence your thinking about marriage?
☐ Very Strongly
☐ Strongly
☐ Moderately
☐ Slightly
☐ Not at All
Why?
17. How confident are you in your ability to evaluate cultural practices objectively?
☐ Very Confident
☐ Confident
☐ Moderately Confident
☐ Slightly Confident
☐ Not Confident
Why?
18. Which cultural influence concerns you most as you think about marriage?
Part G: My Current Position
19. Which of the following areas do you currently regard as your strongest?
☐ Intellectual Maturity
☐ Growth Mindset
☐ Learning and Development
☐ Decision-Making and Judgement
☐ Handling Family Influences
☐ Handling Cultural Influences
Why?
20. Which of the following areas currently requires the greatest attention?
☐ Intellectual Maturity
☐ Growth Mindset
☐ Learning and Development
☐ Decision-Making and Judgement
☐ Handling Family Influences
☐ Handling Cultural Influences
Why?
21. Which area are you most interested in strengthening through this Guide?
Baseline Summary
22. What mental strength do you believe will benefit your future marriage most?
23. What mental weakness concerns you most as you think about marriage?
24. What thinking pattern would you most like to strengthen?
25. What thinking pattern would you most like to change?
26. Complete the statement below.
The strongest aspect of my mental readiness for marriage is ____________________________________________________________.
27. Complete the statement below.
The aspect of my mental readiness for marriage that requires the greatest attention is ____________________________________________________________.
28. Complete the statement below.
The area in which I most need to grow is ____________________________________________________________.
29. Complete the statement below.
The most important lesson I hope to gain from this Guide is ____________________________________________________________.
30. Complete the statement below.
At this point in my life, I would rate my overall mental readiness for marriage as ____________________________________________________________.
