BG.T03-LTP — Learning and Transformation Plan: Practical Guidelines for Choosing and Becoming Marriage Material

Preparing for the Journey Ahead

Practical Guidelines for Choosing and Becoming Marriage Material explores five important areas that influence both the ability to become marriage material and the ability to recognise marriage material in another person:

• Effective Communication
• Responsibility and Accountability
• Financial Discipline
• Teamwork Mindset
• Personal Character

As you begin this Guide, take time to reflect on your current position, identify the areas that require attention and establish clear goals for growth and transformation.

Part A: Why Am I Reading Practical Guidelines for Choosing and Becoming Marriage Material?

1. What prompted you to begin reading this Guide?

☐ Preparing for marriage

☐ Strengthening my current marriage

☐ Recovering from a difficult relationship experience

☐ Seeking personal growth

☐ Ministry, mentoring or counselling responsibilities

☐ Helping another person

☐ Other:

2. What questions would you like this Guide to help you answer regarding how to choose a marriage partner?

3. What questions would you like this Guide to help you answer regarding how to become marriage material?

4. Which of the following areas deserves the greatest attention in your life at present?

☒ Effective Communication

☒ Responsibility and Accountability

☒ Financial Discipline

☒ Teamwork Mindset

☒ Personal Character

5. Why did you choose that area?

Part B: My Starting Point

6. Which of the following areas is currently your strongest?

☒ Effective Communication

☒ Responsibility and Accountability

☒ Financial Discipline

☒ Teamwork Mindset

☒ Personal Character

7. What makes you regard that area as your strongest?

8. Which of the following areas requires the greatest improvement in your life at present?

☒ Effective Communication

☒ Responsibility and Accountability

☒ Financial Discipline

☒ Teamwork Mindset

☒ Personal Character

9. What makes you regard that area as requiring the greatest improvement?

10. Which life experience has shaped your views about practical readiness for marriage most strongly?

11. What lessons from that experience continue to influence the way you approach relationships and marriage today?

Part C: My Learning Priorities

Rank the following topics in order of priority.

12. Why is that topic your highest priority at present?

13. Which topic do you think will require the greatest adjustment in your attitudes, beliefs or behaviour?

14. Why did you choose that topic?

Part D: My Effective Communication Goals

15. Which aspect of communication requires the greatest attention at present?

☐ Expressing myself clearly

☐ Active listening

☐ Empathy

☐ Timing and sensitivity

☐ Openness and honesty

☐ Conflict discussions

☐ Other:

16. Which communication habit would you most like to improve?

17. How would strengthening your communication skills improve your current or future marriage relationship?

Part E: My Responsibility and Accountability Goals

18. Which aspect of responsibility and accountability requires the greatest attention in your life?

19. In what situations do you find it most difficult to take responsibility or remain accountable?

20. How would strengthening your responsibility and accountability improve your current or future marriage relationship?

Part F: My Financial Discipline Goals

21. Which aspect of financial discipline requires the greatest attention?

22. What financial habits or behaviours concern you most at present?

23. How would strengthening your financial discipline improve your current or future marriage relationship?

Part G: My Teamwork Mindset Goals

24. Which aspect of teamwork requires the greatest attention in your life?

25. In what situations do you find it most difficult to cooperate, compromise or work with others toward shared goals?

26. How would strengthening your teamwork mindset improve your current or future marriage relationship?

Part H: My Personal Character Goals

27. Which aspect of personal character requires the greatest attention in your life?

28. What situations, relationships or circumstances place the greatest pressure on your integrity, values or self-control?

29. How would strengthening your personal character improve your current or future marriage relationship?

Part I: Putting Learning into Practice

30. What will you do to ensure that you apply what you learn rather than simply reading it?

☐ Complete all Reflection Scorecards

☐ Complete all Self-Assessments

☐ Complete all Action Plans

☐ Keep a learning journal

☐ Discuss lessons with someone

☐ Review lessons regularly

☐ Seek accountability

☐ Other:

31. What has prevented you from consistently applying lessons learned from previous books, sermons, courses or training programmes?

32. What will you do differently during your study of this Guide?

Part J: Accountability and Support

33. Who can encourage and support you as you work on strengthening your communication, responsibility, accountability, financial discipline, teamwork mindset and personal character?

34. How do you intend to monitor your progress throughout this Guide?

☐ Reflection tools

☐ Self-Assessments

☐ Action Plans

☐ Personal journal

☐ Accountability partner

☐ Regular self-review

☐ Other:

35. How often do you intend to review your progress?

☐ Weekly

☐ Monthly

☐ After each chapter

☐ Midway through the Guide

☐ At the end of the Guide

My Transformation Commitments

Commitment 1

I commit to:

Commitment 2

I commit to:

Commitment 3

I commit to:

My Vision for the Future

36. Which of the following topics requires the greatest improvement in your life at present?

☒ Effective Communication

☒ Responsibility and Accountability

☒ Financial Discipline

☒ Teamwork Mindset

☒ Personal Character

37. If you faithfully apply the lessons from this Guide, what would you like your future spouse, family members, friends or colleagues to notice about you three years from now?

38. Complete the statement below.

By the end of my study ofPractical Guidelines for Choosing and Becoming Marriage Material, I hope to become a person who:

My Personal Declaration

39. Complete the declaration below.

I recognise that healthy marriages are strengthened by effective communication, responsibility, accountability, financial discipline, teamwork and strong personal character. As I study Practical Guidelines for Choosing and Becoming Marriage Material, I commit myself to growing in these areas. By God's grace, I will apply what I learn, develop practical habits that strengthen relationships and continue growing as marriage material.