EG.T03-AP — My Relational and Social Growth Journey Forward

Purpose

This tool helps you convert the lessons learned from Relational and Social Guidelines for Choosing and Becoming Marriage Material into practical actions. It provides an opportunity to identify areas that still require attention, establish growth goals and create a personal plan for strengthening your relational and social readiness for marriage.

Part A: My Key Learning Priorities

1. Which lesson from this Guide has the greatest significance for your life at present?

2. Why is this lesson particularly important to you?

3. Which area of relational and social readiness requires your greatest attention at present?

☐ Respecting Individuality and Differences

☐ Conflict Management

☐ Managing Expectations

☐ Communication

☐ Building Healthy Relationships

☐ Maintaining Healthy Boundaries

Why?

4. What are the possible consequences if this area remains unchanged?

Part B: Strengthening My Ability to Respect Individuality and Differences

5. Which aspect of respecting individuality and differences requires the greatest attention in your life?

☐ Respecting different opinions

☐ Respecting different personalities

☐ Respecting different interests

☐ Respecting different approaches

☐ Accepting disagreement

☐ Avoiding controlling behaviour

☐ Other:

6. What practical action will you take to strengthen this area?

7. What situations are most likely to test your commitment to this action?

8. How will you know that growth is taking place?

Part C: Strengthening My Conflict-Management Skills

9. Which aspect of conflict management requires the greatest attention?

10. What situations are most likely to expose weakness in this area?

11. What practical action will you take to strengthen your conflict-management skills?

12. What evidence would convince you that progress is taking place?

Part D: Strengthening My Ability to Manage Expectations

13. Which aspect of managing expectations requires the greatest attention?

14. Which expectations, assumptions or beliefs could create challenges in your future marriage relationship if left unaddressed?

15. What practical action will you take to strengthen your ability to identify, communicate and manage expectations?

16. How will this action improve your future marriage relationship?

Part E: Strengthening My Communication Skills

17. Which communication habit requires the greatest attention in your life?

18. What practical action will you take to strengthen this area?

19. In what situations do you find it most difficult to communicate effectively?

20. How will you measure progress in this area?

Part F: Strengthening My Relationship-Building Skills

21. Which relationship-building habit requires the greatest attention in your life?

22. What practical action will you take to strengthen your ability to build and sustain healthy relationships?

23. How will stronger relationship-building skills benefit your future marriage relationship?

Part G: Strengthening My Boundaries

24. Which boundary-related issue requires the greatest attention in your life?

25. What situations make it difficult for you to establish, communicate or maintain healthy boundaries?

26. What practical action will you take to strengthen your ability to establish and maintain healthy boundaries?

27. How will stronger boundaries contribute to healthier relationships?

Part H: Applying What I Have Learned

28. Which lesson from this Guide will be most difficult to apply consistently?

29. What obstacles are most likely to hinder your progress?

30. What practical measures will you put in place to overcome those obstacles?

31. What habits will help you continue growing in relational and social readiness after completing this Guide?

Part I: Accountability and Support

32. Who can encourage, support and hold you accountable as you continue strengthening your relational and social readiness for marriage?

33. How will this person support your growth journey?

34. How often will you review your progress?

☐ Daily

☐ Weekly

☐ Monthly

☐ Quarterly

☐ Other: ______________________

35. What will you do if you notice that little or no progress is taking place?

Part J: My Relational Growth Journey Forward

36. What three relationship qualities would you most like to be known for in the future?

a. ______________________________________

b. ______________________________________

c. ______________________________________

37. What kind of relational environment would you like to create in your future marriage?

38. What would you like your future spouse to experience as a result of your growth in relational and social readiness?

39. What would you like family members, friends, colleagues or a future spouse to notice about you three years from now?

My Commitments

Commitment 1

I commit to:

Commitment 2

I commit to:

Commitment 3

I commit to:

My Personal Declaration

40. Complete the declaration below.

I recognise that healthy marriage relationships are strengthened by respect for individuality, constructive conflict management, effective communication, realistic expectations, healthy boundaries and the ability to build positive relationships with other people. As I move forward, I commit myself to applying the lessons learned from Relational and Social Guidelines for Choosing and Becoming Marriage Material. By God's grace, I will continue growing in relational wisdom, maturity, self-awareness, respect and healthy relationship practices so that I become better prepared for a healthy and enduring marriage relationship.